Dealing with Divorce
People experience a sense of loss, when a relationship ends, even though the person is alive. In addition to the many practicalities that must be arranged, people can be preoccupied with the many positive aspects they may have experienced while in the relationship (eg companionship, security, activities, intimacy, future plans.) It is understandable a person may miss some aspects of the former arrangement. Nonetheless, like bereavement, a person may find themselves dwelling on the things they feel they have lost, without planning how they are going to bring things into their life again.
They can still enjoy their treasured memories. The person is still making their internal pictures, and the way they do this will determine whether they are creating feelings of loss, or gratitude for the good aspects of the relationship.
Understandably if a loved one is missing, and their safety is unknown, it is a serious situation and every action needs to be taken to uncover the truth. People will need comfort and support to manage such a terrible situation. However, if it continues to be unsolved for months and longer, people will need to accept the current situation without giving up hope of it changing. People can benefit from using this process to reclaim what they know is good about their experience with their loved one. Their memories are theirs for ever. They can take pleasure in them, and come to peace about the present uncertainty.
Other Types of Loss
Losing a diamond ring, or some other treasured item, or struggling to leave a home and down-size, or adjusting to illness or injury, or moving away from close friends, are all situations of change and potential grief. The process for dealing with grief can be adapted to a wide range of circumstances, helping people to reconnect with the best part of what they had, freeing them to feel joy and happiness again.